Moving to a new country is a big step. You may feel excited, but also alone. This is normal. Almost every newcomer feels this way at the start. The good news is that friendships do come with time and effort. This guide gives you simple ideas.
Why it can feel hard at first
You are in a new place. You do not know many people. The culture, accents and habits are different. Also, British people can seem quiet or reserved at the start. This does not mean they dislike you. Many people simply need time to feel comfortable.
Join places where people meet regularly
The best way to make friends is to see the same people again and again. Try these:
- University or college societies: There are clubs for sports, music, culture, games and more.
- Hobby groups: Walking groups, book clubs, cooking classes, board game nights.
- Volunteering: Charity shops, community gardens and food banks often need helpers.
- Local libraries and community centres: They often run free events.
- Places of worship or cultural groups: You can meet people who share your background.
- Language exchange meetups: Meet people who want to practise your language.
Choose one or two groups and go every week. Regular faces become friends.
Start with small talk
You do not need a perfect conversation. Simple questions are enough:
- "Have you been here before?"
- "How long have you lived here?"
- "What do you do?"
- "Do you know any good places to eat around here?"
People like to be asked for advice. It starts a friendly chat.
Say yes to small invitations
When someone invites you for a coffee, a walk or a quiz night, try to say yes. Even if you feel tired or shy, go for a short time. These small moments build trust.
If you cannot go, say so kindly and suggest another day: "Thanks for asking! I can't this week, but maybe next week?"
Be the one to invite
Do not wait for others. You can say:
- "Would you like to get a coffee after class?"
- "A few of us are going for a walk on Saturday. Want to come?"
Many people are shy. They are happy when someone else makes the first move.
Share your culture
You are not only here to learn. You also bring something special. Share your food, music or festival stories. Offer to cook a simple dish for a small group. People enjoy learning about new cultures, and it helps friendships grow.
Use online tools carefully
Apps and websites can help you meet people, but be careful:
- Use trusted apps for language exchange or hobby groups.
- Do not share your address or personal documents.
- Do not send money to anyone you meet online.
- Meet in a public place the first few times.
Read our guide on spotting online scams for more safety tips.
Look after yourself
If you feel very sad or lonely for a long time, please talk to someone. Many universities have student support services. You can also talk to your doctor or a local support service. You are not alone, and asking for help is a good thing.
Mistakes to avoid
- Waiting for friends to find you. Go out and meet people.
- Staying only with people from your own country. It is nice to have both.
- Comparing your life to others on social media.
- Giving up after one bad event.
- Taking quiet behaviour as dislike.
A simple plan for your first month
- Week 1: Find two groups or clubs that match your interests.
- Week 2: Attend both. Say hello to at least two people.
- Week 3: Go again. Invite someone for a coffee.
- Week 4: Keep going to your favourite group and plan one small meetup.
Frequently asked questions
How long does it take to make friends in the UK? It is different for everyone. Some people find friends in weeks, others in a few months. Keep going to the same places.
Is it normal to feel homesick? Yes. Stay in touch with family, but also build a new routine in your new city.
What if I am shy? Start with small groups or one-to-one coffee meetings. Activities like volunteering are easier because you have something to do together.
Do I need to drink alcohol to make friends? No. Many social events do not involve alcohol. Say no politely if you do not want to drink.
Useful links
- Your university student union (societies and events)
- Volunteering websites (find local volunteering)
- Meetup (local interest groups)
- Citizens Advice (local support)
